(Embodied) Connect & Care Theory

Expressions of Interest

The (embodied) connect and care theory # identifies a very unique early life experience of severe neglect that can shape our brains in a particular way that with the right guidance, a person could go on to become a highly effective role model, guide, conduit, mentor, counsellor, supporter or healer, for those facing difficulties in life. This guidance is free and beyond any personal or monetary gain, for the right individuals. (## See conditions below)

The 'diamond in the rough', a person who has great potential and with the right guidance could do something really amazing for themselves, partners, families, friends and communities.

Early life difficulties of severe trauma or neglect can have enduring consequences across the whole life span. The (embodied) connect and care theory identifies a particular early life experience of adversity and suffering that creates a skillset that few people would ever value or even be aware of. These individuals can feel lost without knowing who they are meant to be. It only takes one person to recognise this skillset and show them how to bring purpose to their lives and through their suffering they could harness the drive to help reduce the suffering of others. I am offering free guidance to selected individuals who would like to explore a unique connected and caring way of understanding mental health struggles and go onto use their skills to change lives.

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Here is a short list of existing skills and traits:

Curious, searching for possibilities rather than absolutes.
Body movement is gentle, face is vibrant and rich.
Voice pitch is soft, calming.
Dislike of anger or control.
Selfless, would give the shirt off their back to help another.
Desire for meaningful conversations.
Want to reduce the suffering of others.
Dislike being the centre of attention.
True to heart.
Authenticity is important, you are important.

These traits appear to be a lean towards a heightened (embodied) connect and care mode rather than a constructed representation of what we think or feel we need to say, do, behave, or display to the world.

Possible career paths:

Metal health worker / influencer
Crisis supporter
Telephone crisis supporter
Community recovery officer
Healer
Counsellor
Psychologist
Psychiatrist

Opportunity (In person or phone)

The (embodied) connect and care theory is about creating endless and rewarding opportunities together through authentic interpersonal relationships. It sees unhealthy behaviours as clues to difficult experiences received during early brain development, that have prevented a person from becoming the best version of who they most wanted to be.

My name is Jeff Lee, private individual, author of The (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory, book series Finding Wawu, retired counsellor, experienced crisis supporter, community recovery officer, lifeline telephone crisis supporter and attuned to reiki master. I don't have an office, what I offer is neuroeducation and experiential-based awareness interventions (moving together), rather than a clinical experience confined within four walls. Moving or meeting together builds somatic awareness through interoception. To step back from what the nervous system is trying to tell us.

If you are curious or would like to find out more, contact Jeff on 0490 772 480 What could we do together?

Email: connectandcaretheory @ gmail.com

Available Options -

Prearranged phone conversations
Prearranged face to face conversations
Mindfully walking
Respectful Home Visit
Cafe / Restaurant
Park / Waterfront
Hospital or Aged Care Centre visits (with permission)
Other agreed location in the Cooktown, Wujal, Hopevale area

(Embodied) Connect and Care Theory

It was while working on a national suicide crisis line, that I noticed it was the most disconnected, depressed and suicidal who were also the most authentic and kindest people ever. They could take me with them into this profound mode of joining that arose in the absence of our words and feelings, a place of gratitude, where curiosity, openness, acceptance, forgiveness and kindness, gave them the permission to seek safety, security and hope. This set me off a journey to explore and share my journey to show others how we might best serve those facing mental health difficulties.

The (embodied) connect and care theory attempts to describe this wordless joining experience, that can move us to become the person we most want to be and why we have become so lost in a modern world that keeps us all disconnected from ourselves.

We are so much more than what we think or feel yet we are born into a modern and complex world that demands our attention and rewards our two upper modes of mental toughness and emotional discipline. But it comes at a cost, the cost of our lower mode of (embodied) connect and care, gifted to us by nature from birth, displaced by a highly reactive nervous system’s convincing argument, that our foundational core mode, the baseline of being human, is far too weak to be of any value.

The (embodied) connect and care theory is about creating endless and rewarding opportunities together through authentic interpersonal relationships. It sees unhealthy behaviours as clues to difficult experiences received during early brain development, that have prevented a person from becoming the best version of who they most wanted to be.

My name is Jeff Lee, private individual, author of The (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory, book series Finding Wawu, retired counsellor, experienced crisis supporter, community recovery officer, lifeline telephone crisis supporter and attuned to reiki master. I don't have an office, what I offer is neuroeducation and experiential-based awareness interventions (moving together), rather than a clinical experience confined within four walls. Moving or meeting together builds somatic awareness through interoception. To step back from what the nervous system is trying to tell us.

Our (Embodied) Connect and Care mode - A Phenomenon

Our (Embodied) Connect and Care mode is a phenomenon that cannot be readily explained or accessed in rational (Thinking) or emotional (Feeling) terms. It might be best described as adaptive and reciprocal actions and behaviours of synchronicity within ourselves and between another and the care provided together contingently, the reciprocity of the mutual beneficial exchanges of support, care and concern, the vibrational resonance of being securely attached and attuned to each other's emotional and psychological needs, the co-regulation required for homeostasis harmony and the comfort of both being seen, soothed, safe and secure in the unconditional shared experience and non-judgemental mind of each other, that was meant to last across the whole lifespan. We were meant to bond, join and share our experiences with at least one important other, who make us important to them.

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(Embodied) Connect and Care Observations

Arises in the absence of everything we feel or think it is meant to be.
Our foundational core mode of being human
Essential feedback mechanism
Does not have an unhelpful nervous system energy attached to it
It is driven by our internal, heartfelt energy, joy, care and kindness.
Source of empathic concern and unconditional positive regard for another
Dissolves judgement upon self and others
Able to do the same work with less energy
Does not desire to punish or control another
Expands on the 'Plane of Existence' as described in Dan Siegel's interdisciplinary framework of Interpersonal Neurobiology
Expands on the 'Social Engagement System' by Steve Porges's Polyvagal Theory
Observable healing outcomes

(Embodied) Connect and Care Theory - Who is it for?

"Reconnecting back to our core mode of being human by intentionally stepping out what we have already constructed."

Individuals

Pursue a career in counselling, mental health
Thinking, feeling, (embodied) connect and care. The three modes to support others, that includes you.
Intentionally looking inwards, aligning with our authentic selves. (returning home)
Understanding who you were meant to be
If you were given a window of opportunity what might you do differently?
Create change - Influence others around you through gratitude.
Understanding others - Looking at their rigidity, chaos or helplessness through an (embodied) connect and care lens.

Relationships

Moving together. Reconnecting back to the experience that brought you together in the first place.
Observe how through co-regulation you can step each other out of nervous system reactivity.

Advanced

Observe unexpected healing outcomes by becoming a conduit for healing through (embodied) connect and care.
Severe neglect, victimisation, suffering - The little known and unexpected pathways to (embodied) connect and care. (The diamond in the rough)
Projecting an accurate representation of your own authentic, embodied connect and care interiority.

Explore the (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory

"We are born into a modern and complex world where our survival needs to fit in have become greater than the heartfelt experiences nature depended on us receiving for healthy brain development and functioning. By observing changing behaviours through the generations we can confirm that our identities and behaviours are being biologically shaped by increased nervous system reactivity." - Jeff Lee

Relationships - The (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory

Our (embodied) connect and care mode is a two-way, shared experience of nature’s gift and so it does not have an unhealthy nervous system energy attached to it. Ruptures in our relationships can disconnect our shared experiences and take us off into nervous system reactivity that can ultimately work against us. By learning to honour our nervous system’s role in protecting us through life, we can then redirect our focus of attention back to the first memories of our connect and care experiences that brought two people together into the most profound subjective experience of joining we can ever have....

Moving together. Reconnecting back to the experience that brought you together in the first place.

If you and your partner were offered an opportunity to make sense of the difficulties you are having in your relationship before things turned to separation, divorce, domestic or family violence, wouldn't you want to be involved?

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Relationship support (In person or phone)

We are offering private and confidential neuroeducation and experiential-based awareness interventions for couples who are active and passionate about getting their relationship back on track. For those wanting to take up this offer, this service is free. (see conditions below)

My name is Jeff Lee, private individual, author of The (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory, book series Finding Wawu, retired counsellor, experienced crisis supporter, community recovery officer, lifeline telephone crisis supporter and attuned to reiki master. I don't have an office, what I offer is neuroeducation and experiential-based awareness interventions (moving together), rather than a clinical experience confined within four walls. Moving or meeting together builds somatic awareness through interoception. To step back from what the nervous system is trying to tell us.

If you are curious or would like to find out more, contact Jeff on 0490 772 480 What could we do together?

Email: connectandcaretheory @ gmail.com

Available options -

Prearranged phone conversations
Prearranged face to face conversations
Mindfully walking
Respectful Home Visit
Cafe / Restaurant
Park / Waterfront
Hospital or Aged Care Centre visits (with permission)
Other agreed location in the Cooktown, Wujal, Hopevale area

The (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory & Interpersonal Neurobiology

Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) shows us a way of differentiating and linking our two upper brain modes to form a cohesive narrative of our past and move us towards healthy brain integration, awareness, vitality and well-being. IPNB might sound confronting but it is basically a way of understanding how the mind, body and our relationships with others and within ourselves, all shape our developing brains.

The (Embodied) Connect and Care Theory goes further to suggest a third mode, our (embodied) connect and care mode, a wordless mode that arises in the absence of nervous system reactivity while being guided by the care and trust of an authentic other, who can project an accurate representation of their own (embodied) connect and care interiority.

Finding Wawu Book Series

Finding Wawu - Book Series

Wawu (Woe-woo) is a word borrowed from the Kuku-Yalanji (Goo-goo - Ya-lan-gee) language of the people of Wujal-Wujal in Far North Queensland Australia, meaning spirit, love, heart and our connections to others. It’s our Wawu, our Inner Essence, Chi, Prana, Reiki, Spirituality, Godliness, Life Force, whichever we wish to call it, that is genetically wired to reach out through our nervous system, to connect to and to care about another. Without a strong (embodied) connect and care experience early in life, our upper modes take over and our relationship with ourselves is changed forever. The Finding Wawu book series is a simple yet extremely complex book series for finding self amongst the chaos and rigidity of others. The books were written to inspire the reader to look at mental health differently through the lens of the (embodied) connect and care theory and shows us how to find our Wawu, even if we lost it, a long time ago. Book Series 1 - Finding Wawu